Meeting People On Tinder | #YouTube Channel

Hey guys!

So me and my girl (who also blogs) Laura,  have a YouTube channel called "London Girls". Our new video is all about Tinder; meeting people on it, the dates we've had from it, our experience from it etc.

5 Signs He Won't Wife You #BoyBye

Don't you love that excited feeling you get when you're talking to a potential bae? In some cases, it doesn't last more than a few days, those are the worst! But when it does, how do you know if you're wasting your time?

Fuck boy lessons of 2016 | Boy Bye

2016 has definitely had a lot more blessings than lessons. It's been a good year, but it's always fun to share our fuck boy moments isn't it?!

Lessons . . .

I honestly have the WORST luck when it comes to guys, e.g. you can see my relationship post here and dating post here.

Instagram | A Social Media Date Gone Wrong

Hey everyone,

So I'm sure I'm not the only one who's spoken to someone from social media they've never actually met, I mean it's not an everyday thing, but it happens sometimes! You know, they add you, follow you, and you eventually start talking.. has anyone ever had a successful experience of this?! It's nice socialising with people you've never met sure, but I hate the thought of going through that awkward moment when you have to meet for the first time, can't we skip 5 minutes into it when we've met?!

I'm going to share an experience I had, a few years ago.. when I was 18-19, and it was by far the worst date I've had haha! One that I remember so vividly..

Me and this guy had been following each other on Instagram a while, I can't say how we even found each other, you know how it is though.. when you and someone keep liking each others posts for ages but you've never actually spoken. Anyway, back in the day when I was 18-19, Oceana, Kingston used to be the place I would go to allll the time! It was the local place I would always see everyone I knew, and guess who I saw?!

Yep.. I'm at the bar and notice the guy standing next to me is kind of good looking, then I think to myself, I swear I know this guy. He said to me "Do I know you? I swear I have you on Instagram" haha so we got talking, exchanged numbers. 

He asked me to go cinema, and that's where it all went wrong.

I got ready, made myself look nice, and I'm standing in the cinema waiting for him.. 
Half hour later..he eventually turned up. We got to the till and the guy asks "Would you like one or two tickets?" He replies "one".

I don't know about you, but I always think it's a gentlemen thing for a guy to pay on a first date, especially if they ask you out and if their trying to make a good impression! Of course I came prepared and didn't expect anything, so I bought my own ticket, he bought himself a drink and didn't offer me one so I bought myself a drink aswel! Good start so far haha! 

We're in the cinema, he keeps trying to kiss me, I don't mind a cheeky little kiss but the way he was coming on I could sense his intentions from then on, so I pulled away and just distanced myself.

When the film finished, we walked outside and he asked if I was hungry, "mm I'm not that hungry" I said, thinking he would offer to go for a snack or drink, but his reply was "fuck it, lets just go Mcdonalds" - got a keeper right there! lool.

I guess he did buy me a 99p popcorn chicken *awks*. We ended up getting on well though, we were talking for like an hour just about everything, I started changing my mind about him, until I realised instead of looking at me he was looking at other girls behind me.

We left Mcdonald's (that's embarrassing to even say haha), and just went for a walk, we was walking and saw the park so we went in to just go on the swings (your never too old for swings haha). We were talking, getting on well, until these 3 girls started walking towards me. I could sense they were going to say something to me and all I kept thinking was "their gona start on me, their walking over, what do I do - I mean, i'm with a guy on a first link, this is so embarrassing". It was what I would describe as a racial attack. And it only gets worse....

They came over and started shouting things and I had no idea who these girls were, never seen them in my life! And if you see me i'm a 5ft 1, petite little thing. I was just looking at this guy like so embarrassed and the park was enclosed with a gate so it wasn't like we could easily walk off like that.

"Do you like BBQ sauce" they said to me. So you can guess what they were about to do next (this was by far the most embarrassing thing of my life it hurts to even write it out lool). So yeah, they started squirting sauce ALL over me, my face, clothes, everything. I was putting my arm out like "can you stop doing that", but they continued. I mean, I can stick up for myself for sure, I'm not a fighter though! You would think being with a guy he would at least try protect me a bit from 3 big girls, but nope, he stood their and watched -  awks. My thoughts....

So yeah as I said it was a racial attack, so after a bit they actually squirted some on him, and he started running off leaving me! "Quick, come on" he kept saying, i'm thinking wait a minute.. they started on me and you watched, they put a tiny put on you and you run off and leave me!

My tiny legs couldn't even keep up with him. Luckily, my house was 2 minutes from the park so we called it a day, finally. The next day he actually messaged about going out again *confused* my reply was "sorry i'm looking for a man, not a boy".. awks.

Has anyone ever had any bad dates? Feel free to share!

Relationships | What goes on behind closed doors

Hey everyone,

I was quite hesitant about writing this post and my reason for it is;

1. I'm not looking for sympathy - but to share my experience with others in/who have been in the same position know they are not alone

2. I feel like it's closure as theirs a lot of things I've kept to myself

When it comes to relationships, couples can look so happy on the outside but you never know what goes on behind closed doors, and I think girls especially, when they love someone their more hesitant to not tell their friends certain things about their other half because they don't want them thinking bad of someone they love and we always defend them no matter what - it's easier to think of all the good reasons to stay with someone but when the negatives outweigh the positives is it really worth it?

Its crazy to think how happy, confident and positive I am today compared to a year or two ago. In my 1st year of Uni I met this guy who I became so close with, best friends, and I thought, I've had a lot of close people in my life but no one has come near to this. I remember one time I had the flu really bad & couldn't get out of bed at Uni, and he came and left medicine outside my door because I didn't want to open it in the state I looked. And another, I was at a club very drunk & called him crying as I had lost everyone, and he picked me up, brought me a jacket and took me home and put me to bed. I thought I was so lucky to have someone like this in my life.

Then it all changed when we ended up in a relationship together a year later. I think back now and the person he was when we were friends, I could love everyday, and the person he was when he was my boyfriend was completely different.

I've had guys hurt me before, but isn't going out with your best friend better? You think they know you inside out, you feel comfortable with them, and you don't need to worry about them hurting you in a way that other guys might.

Quickly things changed, he became controlling, negative, he constantly put me down about myself and nothing he said about my looks, personality, anything to do with me was positive. I'd gone from being a happy confident person who felt 100% comfortable in front of him, to not being able to look him in the eyes when he was near me because I felt like I looked ugly. I didn't understand, because I showed him so much love, I was always their for him. I think when people who always put you down is an insecurity within themselves, because friends, other halves, are mean't to support you, and make your life better and positive, not make you feel so bad about yourself.

Besides always putting me down, he brainwashed me into thinking the only real person I had in my life was him. My number was changed so he knew when I had given someone my number, he tried to turn me against my own friends saying they had been speaking to him and I didn't know who my real friends were (however I don't doubt my best friends one bit so I never believed him). To this day my own friends don't even know, but when we argued sometimes he would hit me. And he would tell me he would never speak to me again if I went clubbing or if I didn't do what he said.

It sounds silly because you think why wouldn't I just leave him. But he had made me feel so alone thinking I only had him, that I would of rather stayed with him, and of course, deep down I did love him - besides the way he acted, because of the friendship we originally had, I was holding on to that person I thought he was. "You have no-one but me, i'm the only real person in your life, you don't even know your own friends". 

Eventually, we broke up. But he would still call me every minute of the day and just wouldn't allow me to move on, "your mine, your not allowed to talk to boys".

I remember in June when I got my Uni results it was such a happy day for me and I called him saying I got a 2:1 - and his reply was, you should of worked harder.

After University finished, I went on holiday with my girls, and everything changed from then on. I had such an amazing time and completely forgot about him. I came back and thought only I can make myself happy, I don't need someone who constantly brings me down.

I started going out more, talking to people who made my life better and positive, who inspired and motivated me to want to be a better person and do better in life. I thought I don't need him and his negativity - he adds nothing to my life.

To this day, we don't really talk. He calls me now and then but I don't answer, if I do, I end up hanging up because he says something negative. It's sad because I really do miss the friendship we had, but I've learn't in life you need to surround yourself with positive people in order to live a happy life.

The reason I have my blog today is because my friend motivated me to do something I would like to help my career, and my other friend has her own blog and helped me make mine - this is the kind of people you need in your life.

Don't ever let anyone tell you something negative about yourself - friends lift you up. Don't be afraid to let go of something that you know deep down is no good for you - I wish I did sooner. My life is so happy and positive now.

(That's a lot off my chest!) I hope this can make others feel better about any situation they may be in. Thanks for reading :)